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Here you will find information of healing tools as it is accumulated and added so check out below some helpful info on healing sexual abuse:  You will find the following: GOD and his son Jesus Christ as a source of strength to get through the roller coasters and train wrecks of sexual abuse.  Education of strong family units being a strength preventing sexual abuse which will eliminate sexual abuse.  Pointing out red flags to look for before sexual abuse occurs and the red flags that surface with a victim.  Educate effects of sexual abuse and educate humanity on a complex but simple human manual of the energy-DNA-brain-body-physical-emotional-spiritual-social connections embodying our beings.  Important steps into beginning the healing process with emergency sources,  finding therapy, telling your story in different situations, becoming a survivor and not a victim advocating/moving on, healing tools to use accompanying therapy, and collaborating with other survivors, advocacy groups, and conferences.

There are healing points and ideas posted for you and your loved ones on this page as comments… try them, utilize them.  Post comments what worked for you and your ideas you utilize to heal or cope with the effects of sexual abuse. The best healing remedy for me has been praying to Jesus and God our Father in sea salt baths of 1/4 of a cup combined with ten drops of pure frankincense oil and praying for 15 to 30 minutes with heart felt prayers of asking negativity to leave and for God to give me joy, and platonic love in my life at all times, and peace, and to cast out all negativity that tries to hurt me…. this works so powerful it will set you on a new path in life of prosperity, joy, and peace if you make the right choices after it works and you stick with it every day….
I am entering a therapy in June called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) This Therapy has strong studies of improving and removing disassociation, anxiety, feelings of panic, PTSD, and other symptoms of sexual abuse trauma. I will post methods and results as I go and attempt to remove, with the help of the specialist in EMDR, my symptoms of PTSD, Disassociation with reality, Panic attacks and anxiety, pressure on my chest of feeling like I cant breathe. I still swear by the spiritual cleansing as it has removed negativity through prayer and elements of sea salt and frankincense pulling me out of a fog of low vibration that causes depression….

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  1. 07/27/2011 3:51 am

    SomatoEmotional Release is a form of CranioSacral Therapy that encourages body/mind integration and can facilitate the release of physical manifestations of childhood trauma. These techniques were developed by Dr. John E. Upledger, D.O, O.M.M. and brilliantly described in his books written for lay people Your Inner Physician and You: CranioSacral Therapy and SomatoEmotional Release and CranioSacral Therapy: Touchstone for Natural Healing.
    When trauma occurs, either from physical, sexual or emotional abuse, the abused will sometimes cope in the moment by suppressing the overwhelming experience of the incident, thereby retaining both the emotional and physical energy of the trauma in their body tissues.
    Stored trauma can wreak havoc on the body and affect functionality, even if the abused person is not consciously aware of the energies locked in their body. It can manifest as chronic pain, decreased range of motion, fatigue, interrupted or blocked energy flow, sudden mood shifts or outbursts and myriad other dysfunctions, many of which appear to have no explanation.
    Dr. Upledger points out in Your Inner Physician and You, “SomatoEmotional Release, when it is effective, changes people’s lives tremendously. It is as though it gives them a chance to see objectively what they are doing with their lives and how they can change for the better. It gives them recall of experiences, traumas, accidents and the like that they have been holding beneath the surface of their awareness for years. Once these suppressed experiences break through the surface, the problems can be dealt with and resolved. When the problem remains suppressed, it can cause trouble, but you don’t know what the cause of the trouble may be, nor do you know the reasons for the symptoms.”
    By engaging in this gentle, light touch, hands on form of bodywork, people are able to process these memories and stored experiences at their own pace, in a safe space of neutrality and non-judgment in such a way that can allow the locked energies to dissipate, thereby releasing and correcting the physical dysfunction.
    SomatoEmotional Release can also be an excellent adjunct to talk therapy, and in fact often enhances the work done there. Clients report feeling stronger, more grounded, more energetic, and better able to deal with their daily life and responsibilities.
    To learn more about SomatoEmotional Release, please feel free to contact me.
    Ramona Ng
    Licensed Holistic Practitioner
    Maitri Healing
    (416) 727-7536

  2. 05/13/2010 5:54 pm

    Logging Depressive Thinking from the Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Depression

    Leaving depressive thinking unchecked it will clutter the mind with thoughts of negativity leading to destructive thoughts like “Nobody cares about me.” “I just want to die.” I don’t find anything enjoyable and I just don’t care anymore.” DEPRESSIVE THINKING CAN BE EXAMINED AND SORTED THROUGH AND CHALLENGED.

    Keeping a journal of depressive thoughts and feelings can enable you to evaluate them and see their flaws… the first challenge is to recognize them. For example: You might first think ” I am useless.” This idea can link to the idea that you are powerless to change, which can link to a sense of hopelessness. Once a depressive circle of thought is seen, you can defuse it much like the example here.

    Addressing this self-defeating thinking then involves pulling them from your stream of consciousness. How do you record a stream of consciousness? By a pocket sized notebook, tape recorder or computerized device like your cellphone for notes or even messages to yourself…most phones have voice record notes or messages to remind yourself.

    Thought Logs:

    Experience:__Thoughts about the Experience: _____Thought related Reactions:

    Depressed Mood_______When will this end__________________Frustration_________
    _Setback at Work_______I’ll Lose My Job__________________Panic, Hopelessness____

    By practicing this approach above you can separate depressive thoughts from your stream of consciousness….

    Feelings to Thoughts Technique:

    Depressive Feelings___________Translations into Depressive Thoughts______

    I feel hopeless I tell myself that my situation is hopeless_____
    I feel helpless ___ I tellmy self I can do no positive changes_____
    I feel worthless___________________I tell my self I have no value and no good outlook

    Do the same for yourself with these exercises of your own thoughts…… take the time to help yourself and most times to do this is when you are positive so when you are down you can read it to yourself….

    Here are the 6 main themes we all go through in depression thinking:

    Negative self-perception: This thinking typically includes self-doubts and self-downing. An example is you think of yourself as routinely confused and think ill of yourself.

    Pessimism: This thinking projects an ominous belief that the future, others, and situations will be bleak. Pessimism leads to depression. An example is “I am doomed.”

    Powerlessness: This is a classic form of depressive thought. When you think that you can’t control events that matter and view yourself as helpless, you will likely experience your future as hopeless. This form of thought includes viewing yourself as overwhelmed and unable to act and that you can’t help yourself.

    Negative bias: People with depression tend to have a selective bias where they zero in on the negatives in their lives and memories can trigger this depressive thinking as well as sleeping or sitting around doing nothing in the powerless state.

    Demandingness: This black and white thinking relates to how you, others, or the world ought to be. When your expectations spark demands for compliance to inflexible personal standards, this distorted pseudo need can lead to frustration, self-blame, and anger. The words that typically accompany this state of mind include: “should” “ought” “must” “require” “need” “demand” “expect”.

    Distortions: This is like looking through a warped lens. A common distortion is that of overgeneralizing from negatives. For example, after making an error, you think you can’t do anything right. Distortions include reading too much into situations, such as thinking that if someone doesn’t greet you, they must hate you. This thinking makes mountains out of molehills.

    When you monitor, recognize, and label depressive thought themes… you have taken a step in the direction of controlling them and throwing them out of your mind.

  3. 05/07/2010 4:05 pm

    A great and easy thing to do 1 minute a day up to 10 or 30 minutes a day is stillness and focusing on our creator of the Universe, tuning in with nature around us feeling connected to everything. This exercise is so simple and freeing with benefits of relaxation, calmness, peace, tranquility, all encompassing love, and beneficial to your overall being. I agree with a friend of mine I found online Carole Fogarty who started a site explaining stillness and you can find her lovely insight into stillness @ Practice stillness starting a minute a day and see for yourself the wonderful results it will bring practicing this healing technique. I personally do this with prayer and thanks to God the creator of our Universe.

  4. 05/06/2010 12:02 am

    The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for depression in chapter 3 states great points about applying procrastination technology to depression as well as techniques to stop procrastination which leads to either more depression or depression itself. It states:

    Procrastination is a major impediment to overcoming depression and as the link mentions when you click procrastination in this sentence procrastination is associated with perfectionism as well as depression. When you procrastinate part of the process is dwelling on depressive thoughts and ACTIVITIES combats the procrastination if you have goals to accomplish your joys in life, or for the depressed person, goals you formerly had before depression was pulling you down.

    Applying Procrastination Technology

    The do it now exit plan involves doing it now within your goals of everyday life to stay active and occupied with positive activities. Defeating dead end thinking is part of the process as well and procrastination usually involves a justification for the delay and a hope for a better time to do it or not feeling like doing the need to do things of life. When your not depressed procrastination involves an upbeat justification for delays like “later is better thoughts”. There is a dead-end excuse that is dangerous called the “catch 22 procrastination” for depressed people and they are thoughts of “Why bother doing anything. I don’t have the energy. Whatever I do is meaningless.” The thinking produces a reality of sleeping all the time and suicides, along with failures to be social in society and around family and friends. To help build follow-through into your daily routine use “the sooner or later approach” whether it makes sense to follow through now, or whether there is a strategic reason to delay until later. The reason for this is goals and objectives… if you have all of these goals to do you will burn out and give up or if you do not have any goals you will give up and be depressed, so you need to evaluate your life and set goals for completion.

    I found out two of my depression and procrastination triggers and they are I want what I dream to do done already and imagination does have it done already… when it comes to the nitty gritty of accomplishing goals it is work and I don’t have my goals realistically planned out, so this chapter shows how important it is to plan your goals and objectives to reach them in different ways. So, goals and procrastination and depression become choices and addressing procrastination you can:

    *identify and stick with your priorities/goals and objectives

    *if a challenge is complex, break the challenge up into subsets of priority activities, you can achieve it starting with the simplest of beginnings

    *use the five minute method: you agree with yourself to work on a project for five minutes-at the end of five minutes you evaluate another five minutes or come back later…. etc.

    *when pressing priorities occur refuse to engage in diversions of watching tv or depressive thoughts by staying on task

    *once you have broken up daily activities and large goals into the small details to accomplish a day at a time, prioritize the daily activities by priority and time-frames of a day making sure you do basic things like eating small healthy meals at least three times per day, waking up at decent times and going to bed at decent times, and daily maintenance and grooming as some of those priorities to stay healthy during your day for optimal results….

    3 techniques to master procrastination

    tune in to your inner voice and listen to what you are telling yourself and turn it in to positive if it’s negative

    do you typically work better by the project or by the schedule…if you work better by schedule set times to do listed actions (people who work better with schedule typically have several activities organized with designated times to do their goals because they have broken them down to little tasks to complete that goal that is ten years later)… if you are a project oriented person you typically work in long time clumps toward the project so you need to pace yourself so you dont burn out…

    #3 is about pacing yourself and doing counter-depression activities and avoiding procrastination which you have read about

    What I learned from this whole chapter and I hope you did is:

    Identifying procrastination and/or depression thoughts and counteracting them by pushing forward…

    Planning and organizing methods of goals into subsets, 5 minute plans, steps, daily activity plans in priorities and lists about daily activities and the huge ten year goals and two year goals broken into the little daily activities for successful plans.

    Avoid time wasters, the 3 techniques to master procrastination-tune in to yourself-project or schedule plan-pace yourself…

    Addressing the procrastination during depression you can limit or stop depression by applying procrastination technology limiting tasks you delay stopping depression and/or limiting it.

  5. 05/05/2010 8:00 pm


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    Daily Log Book for you to download and use as a tool to keep track of you…

  6. 05/05/2010 7:50 pm

    Utilize this link to test your shadow that everybody has holding us back….. It is an interesting test and exercise to try…

  7. 05/03/2010 5:26 pm

    One of my side effects is anxiety and pressure on my chest from being drugged and raped 22 years ago. It feels like I can’t breathe and I found a natural cure for these symptoms that relieves you for minutes, sometimes hours, and sometimes days at a time by a simple and amazing technique:

    * First you say to the Creator of our Universe Our GOD heal me of this area of my body (say what part of your body and rub and tap it for 30 seconds while saying what you want God to heal… for me I tap and rub my whole chest saying this)

    *Next, you start tapping your chakras … top of your crown on your head which is the seventh down to your first chakra (seventh is crown of head, sixth is one inch above the middle of your eye brows, fifth is your mouth, fourth is your throat, third is your heart center of chest, second is your belly button, and first is your genitalia (your legs are an extension of your first chakra and your arms are an extension of your heart chakra which is your third in case you were wondering))while saying “Thank you for healing me of ______ ( i say thank you God for giving me breathing freely without pressure on my chest and that I breathe healthily without thinking and fully). ” As your tapping your chakras saying your thank you to God for your healing from the seventh to your first chakra you move on to the next step after you reach your first chakra. (an alternative that also works is this link from an animal healer and people healer who does spiritual cleansing) You can try this alteration of chakras that also works too as this step.

    * You then tap a couple of times on your thumb, finger, middle finger, skip your ring finger, and tap your pinkie finger on both hands while saying “Thank you for healing _____________ (what you want healed) God, creator of the Universe.” It does not matter if you start with the left or right hand.

    You will be amazed how the pain of anxiety or pressure on your chest or your ailment goes away temporarily for minutes at a time, hours at a time, even days at a time.

  8. 04/30/2010 2:39 am

    Establishing a self development mission from the Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Depression:

    This can apply to healing depression… there are other healing techniques and work to heal other symptoms like ptsd, sexual behavior and relationships, anxieties that will be found later on this blog… the first thing you do is a mission statement for yourself:

    I chose these statements applicable to me:
    * Overcome depression and depressive thinking to free my mind of negativity.
    * Blog my recovery and ideas for recovery and healing for myself and others.
    *Advocate for the protection of children of the future and change/add laws around the world.

    Setting Goals:
    Before I even got to this stage I was seeing a natural healer and part of her network led me to an Iridologist. This reading of my eyes by a picture told my body ailments and strengths. It said my thryroid was not working proplerly and my spleen needed help too. Also, a dark patch was my brain area instead of eye color signifying a trauma. Well, hello, no coincidence that trauma was sexual trauma… so I explained it to her and she referred me to a spiritual cleanser because I have had experiences in my past from negativity effecting my peace of mind. The spiritual cleanser suggested I do frankincense and sea salt baths and pray. One/fourth of a cup of sea salt and ten drops of pure frankincense that is 28 dollars a bottle. After the first night I did this I was starting to feel free of negativity. I do this every night now and pray to God to remove negativity and thank God for the day…. this is the foundation of my healing journey. CANT STRESS THE IMPORTANCE OF THIS FROM MY POINT OF VIEW ENOUGH….
    Next step I took was receiving these steps for depression to do out of the book, being already in therapy for a couple of months prior. Before the therapy the last time I did therapy was a sexual trauma study at UMSL in 2008. This therapy I am in now is at UMSL at their sexual trauma clinic.

    Onward about the steps the book suggests:
    Setting goals…. objectives are like stepping stones on the way to a goal… a goal for effectively dealing with depressive thinking can involve the following objective recording depressive thoughts in a notebook (this blog is my notebook); evaluating the validity of the depressive thinking when it arises keeping a record… a goal to boost activity levels can be identifying the single most important activity to accomplish during the day (today mine was going to a doctor appointment and doing some barter work for a client’s website and this goal is a small step toward achieving my mission statements)…. IT IS MORE SIMPLE THAN IT SOUNDS BY JUST IDENTIFYING WITHIN YOURSELF WHAT YOU WANT TO CHANGE TO FEEL POSITIVE AND START WITH THAT TO MOVE TO MORE GOALS FOR YOUR PERSONAL DECISIONS FOR YOU….

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